Brocade Orange Blazer: Mango | 3D Print Skort: H&M | Heels: Zara | Bag: Alexander Wang (same as here) | Cropped Turtleneck: Topshop | Bangle: Hermes | Watch: Daniel Wellington | Necklace: Love Diva
When I use the term “game” in this entry, I’m not referring to the Westernized concept of “people having game”, otherwise known as people who are able to flirt shamelessly and effectively without abandon. I guess it takes a lot more than a relative gauge of one’s romantic prowess to impress me (off-hand, I have general distrust for people who do excessive pillow talk in public randomly as I think it’s a form of overcompensating)–because seriously, who does that?
By game, I mean it in the most Filipino-colloquial sense aka “being ready” for whatever life throws your way. Doesn’t that make the idea seem more appealing and aspirational (that’s just me but I think you ought to agree)? I just can’t help but admire people who are able to go out of their comfort zones and their stereotypes to become bigger than what people around them could ever imagine!
See, I’m the type of person who prefers to be “underestimated” VS being “over-estimated.” It’s just a preference, of course, I mean to each her own. If you prefer people to think highly of you all the time then that’s well and good, but personally, I like it when I have the power to manage expectations. At work, I’m a notorious sand-bagger and I’m the type to prepare provisions for buffers when it comes to deliverables probably because I’m pretty much realistic (or pessimistic) but at least, I hardly ever have to eat my own words.
It’s not to say I’m deliberately dumbing myself down but rather, just choosing your battles so to speak. I’m a bit calculating in a sense where I try to see what my next actionable steps are to meet expectations halfway, without being too over-confident (or arrogant, which I have a tendency to be). I’m also trying my best to be sensitive by not overstepping boundaries and giving more input than I can chew. I do, however, make sure to assert myself when I really am 1000% sure that my suggestion is fool-proof. I think this should be one of my mantras: Speak less and only speak when you have to–otherwise, observe, and step in when necessary.
In retrospect, perhaps the game I’m referring to is none of the ones I mentioned above. Perhaps, this is an altogether, different game–more of like a backup strategy for one’s life. I think that in whatever endeavors and pursuits you plan to chase, you always have to have a system. It doesn’t have to be anything highfalutin, so as long as you have a goal set. You don’t need to have an absolute goal–I think a meantime goal should suffice. After all, knowing what you want is much better than toddling around the universe in a wishy-washy state… take it from me, I spent a few years wandering around aimlessly trying to understand what I want instead of actually, doing something about it.
Yes, every Mean Girl needs to bring her A-Game be it in Fashion, in Relationships, or generally in Life.
Anyway, here’s an outfit that would totally bring me back to my game despite the stress and the tribulations life can bring about.