Cropped Sweater, Studded Heels: Zara | Pink Checkered Trousers, Belt: River Island | Necklace: Forever 21 | Sling Bag, Sunnies: Celine | Watch: Gucci | Leather Wrap Bracelet: Marc Jacobs | Hair Extensions: Styld Hair Extensions
Because it’s almost February 14, allow me to play the devil’s advocate by writing an almost anti-Valentine’s post. No, I’m not bitter and single… at least, not anymore but it’s my yearly tradition and I’d hate to break tradition. I somehow missed last year (call it the Honeymoon bliss), but I’m making up for it now.
So anyway, people always say:“Love yourself first.” … Don’t we all? The cold hard truth is that, everyone loves themselves. They do! It just varies in degrees… of admission. Yes, I love me, you love you, and the only difference here is that you may not know it yet.
Call me a cynic but I just tell it as it is. As I used to say, I call an orange: an orange. And I will continue to call that orange an orange for the rest of my life. There’s no point in lying when you can’t escape your own psyche. Human beings are inherently narcissistic. Save for some special cases, I guess–like the Pope or Madre Teresa or like the various Catholic Saints but come to think of it, they sacrificed a lot too and in the end, they do get recognized/canonized… only in the end though but that is all sorts of depressing.
I’m a narcissistic person. I’m self-absorbed, I’m selfish, and I’m self-centered. I put myself first and foremost in every endeavor. I love me, me, me!
I know I say it like it’s a bad, evil thing (probably because I’ve long been branded as the evilest person in the Philippine blogsphere… but hey, if real means being evil then so be it) but… it really isn’t. It’s true what they say, that you have to love yourself first before you can ever love anybody else… and you have to continue to love yourself all-through-out. I mean, you already do, unknowingly, you just have to be conscious of it.
See, in the end you will realize that you love somebody because it makes you happy and you want to be happy because you love yourself… or, you do kind acts not only because you love the unfortunate, but also because it makes you feel good about yourself and you want to feel good because you love yourself.
The end of every action goes back to just… you.
That’s a fact. How you view it–negative, positive, whatnot depends on your perspective. All else, single, attached, married, or it’s complicated… Happy Valentine’s Day and remember, you don’t need a significant other or a relationship status to define February 14.
This photo set was taken by my sister inside our village, while I was going to bring her back home before I go to a writing workshop to serve as one of their guest speakers. Here are some more shots: