Diamond Earrings: Parents | Top with Embellishments: Zara | Peplum Skirt: Bershka | Belt: Vintage Versace | Bag: Celine Mini Luggage | Heels: S&H Fashion | Ring, Watch: Charriol
Although I like to deviate and diversify myself–not just in terms of style, but practically everything, I’ve always been hyperaware of who I am and what I want to happen. Like I said, I’m nothing short of self-absorbed (and yes, I mean that literally and figuratively).
I’m not saying I know who I will be, but rather, I am conscious of who I am and what I am capable of. Yes, I’m a constant work-in-progress and I can’t be a hundred percent sure of how my life will turn out (given a multitude of possible factors) in the next decade but I know how to control it to induce favorable outcomes. I’m not a seer, okay, but what’s crystal clear however, is knowing and getting what I want. Always.
You’re probably wondering how that’s possible.
When I dress myself up, I always know how I want to look like. When I buy an article of clothing, I conceive an entire outfit. I fancy myself a “visionary” (perhaps this is why I’m a writer as I felt that the only way for my ideas to materialize was for me to write it down to the very last detail). Of course, there are times when my visions don’t directly correlate with the real world. Like I said, I can’t predict the future, but I can only steer it to the right direction.
So allow me to offer an example derived out of our shared interest: “fashion.” So I have a neon chiffon cropped top that I got to pair with my aztec print cigarette-cut trousers. When I paired them together, the top was awkwardly cut that it threw the proportions off balance. Although my initial reaction was to mull and be disappointed, I’ve come to realize that I had to do some “necessary tweaking” and by this, I mean, changing my whole perspective. Instead of pairing the cropped top with those trousers, I’ve decided that both items can sit in my closet until I find the perfect combination for both separately. It had to wait for the perfect time, I guess (and it did, for the aztec trousers–to be posted soon, of course).
Okay, shallow example aside. The lesson here, (if we allow ourselves to scale the rather myopic example I gave, into a fully-blown picture) is that the key to getting what you want, to allow yourself to envision clearly the things you want to happen, is to know that all problems come with a solution. It may not be the solution that you want initially, but there are solutions you can live with–even better solutions that pave for a better output.
It’s not to be misconstrued with settling. I think that when you settle for something, you know you’re not settling for the best that can be offered. There is instantly regret and resentment there. Unlike finding a solution and tweaking your reality, you refrain from being too narrow and you allow yourself not to be limited and constrained.
I think the line between both is pretty fine so it’s really hard for anyone to tell and for me to explain. I guess the best way to deal with it is to try it out and see for yourself. 🙂