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“Razzle Dazzle Rose” is a song from one of Camera Obscura’s albums, an Indie-Rock band from Scotland; it is, consequently, the last song I listened to before going to sleep last night. I’m a fan of upbeat, pop music like most individuals–I enjoy bobbing my head to the occasional bubblegum music, boy bands, and R&B/club music but when it comes down to it, I’m an indie hipster down to the core (I’ve discussed my musical tastes in this post entitled: Soundtrack of My Life).
So I put a little variety in what I listen to and don’d discriminate genres. It’s just that I gravitate more towards the Euro-Indie/Electronica bands, I can’t help it, it’s not that I try too hard but I think that’s where my musical palette lies. Anyway, that’s besides the point, there’s a line in the song that goes:
“I tried to be happy, it wasn’t easy. When I choose my color, it will be Razzle Dazzle Rose.”
There is wisdom in there, I think. Wisdom that is timely for people like me, and maybe you. Over twitter this afternoon, I said: “Don’t let anything or anyone define you. In this life, all that matters is living for YOUR own self. That’s how you define YOU.”
It didn’t really come from anything–I wasn’t trying to be cryptic. I just realized that some solutions to certain problems are pretty much easy… to say, that is.
I think it’s not rocket science to know that being happy is never, ever easy. The moment you experience, what you probably think, is an ultimate high, you plummet down and things suddenly go awry. That’s life. Life is never smooth sailing, we all know this, and if things just settle into some sort of stagnant plateau then rest assured, something is most definitely wrong (trust me, I’ve been there).
But, like I said, being happy is a choice. Yes, there are problems we encounter on a daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly basis but we always deal with it. We have to. We can’t just shove our problems inside a closet along with all the other obscure skeletons we may still keep, right? Likewise, we can’t wallow in a pity parade we host for ourselves–we should be better than that because we are better than that. Things don’t always go our way and they can’t always go our way but the good thing is, if you are able to step out of your own sphere of consciousness and assess other people, they’re all struggling. We are all equally struggling.
We all just struggle differently.
So as a pact, I will never ever feel sorry for myself. I can’t stand being thought of as a victim to anything. Pretend victims sicken me, it’s gross, and very emasculating. If you rely on being a victim of circumstance and a victim of your own actions, then you’re worse than being mediocre–it’s pathetic. Yes, I’ve been wronged a lot of times by a lot of people, but do I ever consider myself a victim? Before maybe… I’ve sung my “woe is me” hymn a lot of times because life has treated me unfairly especially last year, when I was accused by uninformed individuals (friends and illiterate people alike) of things I did not and would not ever do, but I eventually slapped myself back to reality and bounced back. The best way you can flip your haters the bird is by being truly happy; so I decided to show those who’ve wronged me that there is no space in my life for them and that I was superior than them in a lot of aspects.
There is also karma of course.
Suffice to say, I am living my life. I am immensely enjoying my life. My life is filled to the brink with love, joy, laughter, and blessings. Yes, there are the occasional problems but you know, I face it head on, deal with it justly and legally without impeding on others, and you know what? Things always work out in my favor.
Although humility is a good value to uphold, let us not mistake being humble for being a push-over. It’s knowing your place and it’s knowing how to act appropriately as well. So when being dealt cards, stand up, take the challenge, and do the right thing over and over again even if people don’t see you doing it or even if people don’t appreciate it. Then as soon as you overcome that obstacle, you move forward towards the road to happiness. All roads lead to being happy, I firmly believe, even if there is a rock or a diverging road along or in between. You just have to trudge on.
So when the going gets tough, the tough gets going! Also, always remember that a lot of people are suffering in ways you cannot imagine, if only because they are experiencing their pains a little bit differently than yours. It doesn’t make them any less of a human being, so let’s just continue to extend a bit of understanding and kindness, even if it seems unfair–especially if they’ve hurt you (isn’t it poetic justice to see your enemies suffer? Perish the thought). The merit is, after all, in heaven.