Shades: Aldo | Necklace: Forever 21 | Watch: Gucci | Belt: Moschino | Pants: Wrangler | Leopard Print Top: Zara | Alexander McQueen Inspired Leopard Print Jacket: Posh Wardrobe | Leopard Print Heels: So Fab! | Bangle: Hermes | Bracelet: Tory Burch | Ring: Mango | Bag: Givenchy
In order to survive alongside the human race, you have to be two things: one, you have to be aggressive, and two, you have to be sly. Those two qualities have to coexist. If you are able to imbibe the aforementioned, the congratulations, you’re pretty much prepared for an imminent zombie apocalypse!
On a more serious note though, the world is a battlefield and you’re in competition with everyone for everything–happiness, wealth, peace, freedom, even that last piece of designer frock on that lone fifty-off rack. Suffice to say, everyone wants what they deem is best (or what is universally known to be the very best), and to get the best, you have to work for it one way or another.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you have to be the best at practically everything. If you can accomplish that, kudos, you’re Superman, but you have to know your priorities. Sun Tzu’s “Art of War” states that you “lose the battle, win the war” or in layman’s terms, “you win some, you lose some.” This is why you have to choose your battles wisely and discern which ones you can afford to lose, and which ones you have to emerge victorious in. By knowing your priorities (and if you don’t, refer to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs), you know the next steps you have to take (and come up with a contingency plan while you’re at it) to meet your ultimate goal.
Although I’m not the friendliest person this side of the planet (I’m the resident introvert), I’ve always had clear-cut goals (most of the time, that is). I know what I want, and I’m not afraid to get it (and each day, I’m one step closer to attaining my goal). Of course, as I got older, my priorities shifted, but my ultimate goal remained the same. As time progressed, I had to take different measures to tweak my “means” but all for what? Happiness.
But I realized recently, to be truly happy, you have to add one last ingredient to the mix–a little bit of heart. Yes, I know, what a cliche, the big witch of the Philippine blogsphere is pretty much hankering for compassion. Well contrary to popular belief (and as much as I love reveling in my infamy), I am very much human and the people around me, the people I work with, the people I encounter, are just… intrinsically the same. Sure, we all have different quirks and personalities, everyone is unique, but deep down, we all want the same thing: happiness.
So yes, people have wronged me, and to an extent, I have wronged them (Often under the slightest provocation but I’ve pretty much admitted to all my sins because I’m a trouper like that), and as much as I feel like these people don’t deserve a minuscule of charity (given recent events), I’ve decided to leave fate in God’s hands. Madre Teresa said something along the lines of: “Love until there is no room left for hate” (is this even right, I’m too lazy to google), and trust me, I’m far from loving my foes, but I’m at this point in life where I just want to move on to the important things. So I’ve decided to leave them to their own self-destructive tendencies and chalk it all up to them being dissatisfied with their lives (immensely at that).
I’ve said time and time again, that people will always have something to say about you, and they will do the craziest things to ensure that your world comes crumbling down (trust me, I’ve been the recipient of a lot of unfathomable actions coming from last year’s fiasco) but you know what? Only you have the power to allow these people to take a hold of your life. So don’t let them matter. Nothing kills anyone more than the realization that you don’t give a flip about them. Soon, things will follow suit.
For me, I got my own kind of justice. I am happy, aren’t I? I’ve passed contentment and I’ve settled into a happy reality. My dreams are slowly materializing itself. For me to be this happy, I had to aggressively and slyly live my life on my own terms, and wouldn’t you know it! I’m a few steps shy from accomplishing my goals without (deliberately) stepping on anyone.
You can argue that Happiness is a state-of-mind and not a goal–yes perhaps. That’s what mini-goals are for but I like being happy, I like attaining that level of emotion, and with that mindset, I swear, I’ve gotten all the mini-goals I’ve set.
Believe it or not, I think this is the first time I consciously did “print on print” and because I’m very vanilla and non-experimental, I made sure that I paired patterns of the same color scheme. For today, I was inspired to be a go-getter and in the corporate world, you have to be nothing but “ferocious.” It’s all about the mindset, apparently! Dress it to believe it.
Black jeans are a staple in my closet–I have them in linen, in silk, and in a variety of cuts and brands. From cheap bazaar finds to premium designer jeans! This is a new addition to my closet that I’m quite fond of–Wrangler’s black skinnies. They hug on to my ankles perfectly that it molds just like jeggings!
The best thing about it is it’s functionality. I love how I get to use it to work during days where I service my clients, and they make for good mobility!
Shoot outtake where my help was fixing the camera settings. Yes, she’s quite the photography genius! I don’t know what I’d do without her!