Earrings: Forever 21 | Silver Body Harness: Aldo | Black Peplum Belt: Glitterati | Dress: Posh & Pretty | Heel-less Wedges: SM Parisian | Stingray Clutch: YSL | Silver Spiked Cuff: Passion Meets Style
Here’s a harsh reality: Everyone expects something from you.
Friends, family, and hell, even foes.
Expectations can make or break a person, and there are two common ways to deal: it is either you succumb to other people’s standards or you altogether neglect them. Fortunately, the world isn’t narrowly contained in mere black and white–it’s a visual extravaganza filled with technicolor, and maybe a bit of grey areas in between. This is to say: there are certainly over a hundred (or more) ways to address people’s rather high ideals.
However, if you ask for my (unsolicited) advice, I will give you a less-likelier, less mainstream (being the self-proclaimed hipster that I am) approach and that is to surpass expectations.
Simple concept with a rather complicated output, yes?
Self-deprecation aside, I’m a firm believer of “expectations” motivating a person to become better versions of themselves. I guess it’s the optimist in me–or the sadist, maybe–that wants to take on a challenge and, in urban speak: own it (the said challenge). I live to see the look on people’s faces when I’m able to deliver more than what they ask for, more than what they expect.
So, to the people who expect too much from you? Be flattered–they wouldn’t expect a lot if they didn’t think you were capable. High expectations are reserved for those who are deserving. People who don’t expect too much from you? Prove them wrong, royally at that.
So the reality is: people expect a lot from other people. All I can say is, “hit me with your best shot.”
And trust me, I will try to make it worth your while.
On that note, here’s an insightful article suggested by one of my soul sister’s readers: Haters Gonna Hate. Funny how literature and other people’s seemingly similar experiences can inspire someone (aka me) to deliver a thought-provoking message composed of run-ons and semi-contradictory statements. Me already (and yes, that is self-deprecation laced with sarcasm for those who are unaware).
Here’s my “tough cookie with a long history” outfit, built on top of this Posh and Pretty dress I got from my good friend (the owner), Tin Roque: