You know that children’s rhyme that goes: “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?”
I’ve been mentally chanting that idiom these past few days, and half the time, I can’t help but let out a bitter scoff while thinking wryly, “Well, isn’t that a tub full of lies?” Words are easily said and forgotten, especially when it is said without forethought, but the damage it can do will last a person a lifetime.
Last Thursday, an email was released to a handful of bloggers:
If you’re not aware of the current on-goings in the fashion blogging industry, then bless your soul. If you’re the slightest bit interested then I’ll give you a quick run through: early this October, a gossip website entitled The D-List Burn Book, which was hosted primarily at Tumblr and then transferred to Webnode, was created to stir talk amongst the Fashion Blogging community–writing articles upon articles of fictitious and sensationalized accounts of several bloggers and their so-called dirty laundry. It seemed to however, focus primarily on myself and Joanna Ladrido with blatant below the belt remarks and all.
It has also spawned a twitter account which linked its new blog posts and released so-called tips from so-called readers.
Before we proceed chronologically, allow me to do the necessary FAQs plus a quick exposition on the matter for your better understanding.
SO WHY DO I WANT TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT?
Personally, my readers know that I don’t care much for other people’s opinions in general. Couple it with the universal fact that I’m the most self-absorbed person in the planet, I really don’t feel the need to dignify other people’s opinions about me. What for? I’m not exactly the friendliest person out there and that’s just how I am. I refuse to smile and be chummy towards people I’ve only met; All the more, I’ll never fake a greeting and direct it to someone I do not like. Some people can do it, I can’t. It’s truly simple: I’m a very easy person to talk to–ask me if I said anything remotely derogatory about you and I will be blunt. In fact, I will say it to your face. A few have already approached me about so-called rumors a former good-friend is circulating and I’ve been nothing but honest with them (mostly though, they were insults my ex-friend said about them actually and not the other way around). Fact of the matter is, it’s such a waste of time to talk about someone when their backs are turned. Why not just say it up front? Anyway, I won’t pre-empt anyone, I promise to tackle all of this in the latter parts of this entry.
Given that I’m already being implicated for things I haven’t done and I am not responsible for, I don’t want to further make my good friends and family worry. I also don’t want to stress myself with things that are supposedly majorly trivial.
Of course, let me clarify, I’m not trying to convince anyone of my innocence and I don’t want to appeal to anyone’s emotions and present myself as an underdog. As my dad told me, “you were raised a fighter, fight for the truth” (funny random fact: my Chinese middle name was supposed to mean warrior but my dad mistakenly added a stroke to the said character and transformed me into a poet) and that is what I’m doing. Bottom line is, I think people will always believe the truth that is most convenient for them. No matter the effort and amount you put in preaching the truth, you can never fully convince those who have their own views and hold on to pre-conceived notions. Besides, no one is ever privy of the complete objective truth anyway but despite that, people will always have something to say and people will always cast judgment despite their claims of being neutral because that’s just human nature and I’ve made peace with the fact already. I just think that I owe myself and the people who care for me, enough dignity to actually piece my thoughts out and air my side out. So bear with me, I will try to be as coherent as possible.
These past few weeks, I’ve already hinted some tension between a so-called “It” blogger and myself; I haven’t narrated the entirety of the issue simply because I wanted to just move on from it but yes, from time to time, I would bring it up, if only because JL and I were continuously harassed by this individual and her posse, not just in the virtual world but also in the real world. Here’s a not-so-quick rundown:
- June 2, 2012 – My day started out pretty normal: I was arranging my booth, selling my clothes, and goofing around with one of my best friends: Crissey. It wasn’t until my not-yet-then-boyfriend Enzo arrived at the scene when things started to get a bit strange. Through my peripheral vision, I could see the “It Blogger (IB)” and her friends congregating around her booth, talking. I didn’t think much of it, really. She always seemed nice and though we were never really close enough to be called friends at whatever point in our lives, she was always a pleasant acquaintance. A little later, I caught her eye and gave her a brief smile (as I always do), which she altogether ignored by turning her back on me. Again, I didn’t think much of it. A little later, Joanna dropped by my booth and said, “Don’t look, someone’s glaring at you.” Now, the funny thing is, Joanna wasn’t the first person to point that out–two non-industry friends who dropped by my booth prior actually said the same thing already. To see what was bothering IB, I went to her booth, and before I could actually ask her anything, she made a beeline to some other blogger’s booth and I was left there with no agenda. To save face, I opted to buy two foxtail keychains at 50 bucks each from her booth.
- June 12, 2012 – The Mega Fashion Ball happened; I came with my boyfriend, Joanna, and our friend Jed Tiu-Lim (who is not my cousin, by the way). IB and 2 friends were seated 1 table away from us and again, they did not make a move to greet us, but we could literally see them whispering and snickering. Of course, we decided not to assume just yet.
- 3rd week of June – I bumped into 2 stylist friends of mine at Mango Rockwell, who were coincidentally seated at the very same table as IB during the event. They said that the group was snickering and talking about us; IB was overheard saying (in Filipino): “He (in reference to my boyfriend) replaced me with a mediocre blogger.” I didn’t really think much of it because I didn’t have proof. It wasn’t until a few days later when Joanna was told the exact same thing by another celebrity stylist sitting at the very same table.
- 4th week of June – We were being harassed by two twitter accounts under the names of Annie Padilla and Annie Moreno. A notable line tweeted was: “You both have so many enemies” in Filipino (which is very telling of what was yet to come). It wasn’t that we don’t believe we have haters, it’s that we don’t believe the coincidence of having a hater naming IB’s friends and then harassing both Joanna and I (a tandem that was so fresh at that point in time). Anyway, Joanna devised a clever plan to retrieve the location of the troll twitter accounts. In order to extract the IP address, Joanna sent a link to the troll account via Direct Message. If the person manning the account clicks on it, it automatically registers the user’s digits and location to an IP tracking site. Because we were already suspicious of IB, we extracted IB’s IP address from an old email and unfortunately, both configurations of the IPs were a match.
- Within the day – Having traced the IP, Joanna called IB over the phone and they spent roughly 2 hours screaming at each other. IB claims to not have anything to do with it, of course, and brought up old issues that were irrelevant to this timeline. Towards the end of the conversation, Joanna said sarcastically: “If it’s not you, then it’s probably someone from your house because that’s what my IP trace states” and IB responds, “Maybe, but it’s not me.” It’s either a yes or no–there should be no gray areas and no maybes.
- First 3 weeks of July – The first 3 weeks of July went without a hitch, save for the occasional fishy hate comments from my blog and Joanna’s blog. From time to time, we would send each other so-called hate comments that were hurtful and malicious.
- July 26, 2012 – I released my “Misconceptions of an It Blogger” post. I admit that I went over the line a few times, insulting IB but like I said, I don’t bite unless provoked and I was severely provoked. On the other hand, I had all the proof that I needed as far as “anonymous hate comments” go–using the name Arfin Rogerio, her first comment was and I quote, “hush, hush, I’m not IB” and a little later, Anonymous strangely states, “Our family will look into (hiring a lawyer)” in response to my refusal of editing my “blog.” So the big but rhetorical question is: who cares enough to want to have my blog edited? On that note, I’m still waiting for the so-called lawyers.
- August 18, 2012 – I dropped by the Rockwell Urban Bazaar where I spotted IB with 2 other It bloggers: the triad which Joanna refers to as PLC. This was also the day of Joanna’s mom’s birthday. At around 5 or so PM (and I remember this vividly), my boyfriend texted me that a new troll account was created. Because I didn’t want to deal with negativity while Joanna was going to undergo a life-threatening surgery, I blocked it. For a day, we also kept her unaware but she figured it out on her own when the account mentioned her to die on the operating table whilst refering to her once again as “espasol” and “polvoron.”
- September to October: After the account was put to a stop (because Joanna’s mother and older sister had to step in and take matters into their own hands), things were silent for a while. However, little by little, hate comments started to pop up once again singing the same tune. Although some people might think it shouldn’t justify anger, well, I’m sorry but if you were the receiving end of such horrid actions, would you really not feel irritated? The foremost question in our minds was, “When is she ever going to stop?”
- October 5, 2012 – This was the day of the Apartment 8 fashion show. A variety of stories were recounded about this event but as far as we were concerned, there was not much interaction because Joanna and I were placed in a separate room the entire time.
- October 11, 2012 – Dlist Burnbook was created.
- October 15, 2012 – Another hate comment, but this time, I decided to post it and put it alongside an old comment supposedly made by IB with a similar IP address.
- 2nd and 3rd week October – A variety of posts from Dlist Burnbook about several bloggers were released. The attacks on myself and Joanna however were a little bit personal. Mine in particular was referring to my so-called illegitimacy (as in I was apparently the illegitimate daughter of a gold-digging European and a Chinese man but sorry, I’m a legitimate child and I’ve papers to prove it as I was adopted by my wonderful stepmother and my hardworking father), my family’s wealth status in Cebu (I’m so sorry we have a driver and I don’t have to pick my siblings up from school myself), my social climbing skills (because I am obviously the one who’s so desperate for money and fame–that’s sarcasm, my friends), my ability to steal boyfriends (because I am obviously so amazing, I’ve stolen a boy who has been single for already a year and is being stalked by his psychotic ex), my weight issues (I can’t help it if I was fat before), and the like. Coincidentally, another twitter account popped up to implicate myself (this particular fact is once again, very telling of future events) and Joanna (which, according to a source states that the person allegedly behind it is IB’s mom).
- October 28 – While out in Rockwell Powerplant, we received an email leading us to a “supposed” facebook leakage.
- November 4, 2012 – We were accused of throwing glasses in Prive Luxury Nightclub.
- November 8, 2012 – The creation of the “Real D-List” site on Tumblr, the very same platform used by the first DList Blog, using the same style and the same method of character assassination. All the information posted were libelous and defamatory, by the way.
- “Proof” Can be Faked – In the very same way that this incriminatory blog stating that I am the person behind DList Burnbook is based on a variety of inconsistent and weak evidence, not to mention, a slew of false statements, we have never denied the possibility that the leaked facebook conversation could be doctored. But as mentioned, we take evidence (and comparatively, a facebook chat log is a better set of evidence than a redundant Tumblr Blog that leaves crumbs of its predecessors) at face value. Besides, who would have the time to labor and create a fake facebook chat that talks in the very same way as the accused does (Like ehrmerged!!)? Plus, a comment in Joanna’s post explains:
- We threw glasses in Prive – IB’s party claimed that they had a copy of the CCTV and had several eye-witnesses to vouch for them because apparently, a glass was thrown at her “smack dab center” but hit her in the back–a minor wound that needed a tetanus shot and an x-ray. On the other hand, Joanna was also assaulted that night which led to a slew of bruises that aggravated her slip-disc. Well then, can they please procure screencaps of the CCTV and have eye-witnesses that aren’t in any way connected to them vouch for them, please?
- I am writing the articles as Dlist Burnbook – By far, the most libelous claim, not to mention the most ridiculous thus far. The authors of the “Real D-List” based the claim I used the same phrase “drunk as a fish” in a blog post I made 6 years ago, pointing out my tendency to talk about people behind their backs (again, based on a hearsay thing), and similarities between my old college blog circa 2006 and my current blog and DList Burnbook’s (as to how, I cannot tell, last I checked, I only know around 10 words from the gay linggo).
My cousin, who lives with me in the same household. The true “construction heir”–the one that Dlist failed to mention. All of my good friends know Martin as I always introduce him as my cousin (and I’ve always been transparent about this fact).
A college friend of mine, who I talk extensively with about books.
One of my super close friends–someone who’s active in the same industry but one who’s always been neutral and has steered clear from controversy (although unfortunately, she’s being dragged into it by a few thoughtless and cruel individuals). Note, she is also a good friend of someone I am no longer friends with–did that cause a wedge between our friendship? Not at all. My relationship with her is separate from her relationship with the other person–this in itself is an example that I’m too self-absorbed to actually get insecure about anyone.
Oh, and before I forget, my best friend, the salutatorian of our class, and a registered pharmacist in Canada’s gtalk comment (which translates to: “Oh God, like I couldn’t read all that burnbook shit she made of you, but JFC, your multiply got included? If she were really innocent, she wouldn’t have made a burnbook in response to a burnbook accusation):
I guess for someone who has a lot of enemies “or kaaway” as Annie Moreno’s troll account stated or one who has “zero friends” as Dlist Burnbook mentioned, I think I find comfort that the people who matter know that I am innocent (“know” being the operative word). For those who haven’t had a single decent real-life conversation with me and had already made a move to cast their judgment–I’m sorry, I don’t know you guys and I certainly don’t need to waste my time justifying myself to you. It’s hardly my loss, really. As I said, people will always believe truths that are convenient for them.
- My Singapore Engineer – For the longest time, I’ve been working with a web engineer for Konichiwear. Although I don’t talk about it, he’s the reason why my site is afloat. I am a little bit too lazy to manage and design my own site so he usually does the gritty work and the hosting responsibilities. He is also coincidentally, the one behind the So Fab and CMG Philippines websites. His name is Russell Ong (you can check his linked in) and he is stationed in Singapore, if you want to contact him, go right ahead, and in fact, to double-check, why don’t you contact CMG Philippines also? Here is our conversation thread where I asked him to have the Dlist Burnbook Site removed.
- The claim that I was removed from Forever 21 – Forever 21 Philippines did not remove me, I had to voluntarily stop because I had a commitment with So Fab, which was in conflict with Forever 21’s shoe line. The marketing manager and I parted on good terms as she would still invite me to Forever 21-related events.
- The claim that I ask a high fee for blogging stints – Unfortunately, half of the sponsorships in my blogs, I don’t get paid for apart from free items or ex-deal. In fact, choose one brand from my sidebar and ask them how much I charge. I assure you, it is either pro-bono or within the 10,000 php to 15,000 php range. To make my point, I shall show you an email I had with the Apartment 8 owner, where by the way, I did not ask for whatsoever compensation because I functioned on the basis that I liked the brand, I liked what it stood for, and I liked the clothes.
- Needing a Roommate – When I mentioned earlier on that I had a strained relationship with my dad, it was because I wanted to stay in Manila to work (and maybe a few other things that are a bit too personal to share and unimportant to the issue at hand). Because I was stubborn and I wanted to make it on my own, my dad granted my wish but only with a hitch–I wasn’t to be supported monetarily. To make a point, I made sure I didn’t get any assistance from my relatives hence I went to rent a flat out with my former Ateneo roommates. Before I got my day job, I had to make-do with my meager personal savings. To support myself, I sold all my old designer bags. Later on, I developed a habit wherein if I get tired of a certain bag, I would sell it–usually, I sell it at a much lower price so I don’t really earn anything from it. Besides, it’s not really a secret since I posted it in one of my public facebook account’s albums. Next, because I didn’t have a car initially, I hitched half the time or commuted. If I had to commute, I would take the cab–seldom the MRT and never the jeep (not to be snooty but I don’t like the fact that jeeps cut corners and because I don’t condone its driving style, I don’t try to contribute to its wage)–people who’ve been following me on twitter and plurk know for a fact that I complain a lot about public vehicles. What’s wrong with taking the cab anyway? Believe it or not, Joanna has taken the cab. My good friend Weesa and Jam, who are both well-off, take cabs on a regular basis.
- Relying on my boyfriend’s gifts – It’s slightly ironic for anyone to bring this up as it presents blatant insecurities (I’m truly sorry all you got was a Michael Kors bag, but if it’s any consolation, Michael Kors is designer too). I do not ask for my boyfriend to buy me gifts and I most certainly do not ask for his family to do the same; I’ve been so self-sufficient for so long that I do get uncomfortable when people give me something expensive–I don’t feel like I deserve it at all only because I feel like I haven’t worked for it myself. On the other side of the coin–I do appreciate it immensely because I know for a fact that apart from them showing their affections towards me and showering me with gifts, they are also very welcoming and loving–sending occasional “I love you” texts (from Joanna, to Ate Kate, to their mom, and their dad) from time to time. Because they are such loving people, they try to express their love through all possible avenues and gift-giving is one of them. Is there anything wrong with that? In the end, I can only count myself lucky to be amongst such wonderful individuals. However, because all relationships–be it romantic or platonic–is heavily reliant on the give and take principle, I also make it a point to spoil my boyfriend (and his family) and yes, I spoil him really well. I take pride in being the only girl to have spoiled him, and those are his words not mine.
- Making the Burn Book on the Account of claiming to be Regina George – If we work on this logic, did you know that IB’s favorite movie is Mean Girls also (she used to mouth off the conversations down to a tee)? So because her favorite movie is Mean Girls, she’s Dlist Burnbook also? Now see how faulty that logic is. At least my favorite movie is Almost Famous.
- I do not like IB because she is my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend – The thing is, she wasn’t the most recent girl that my boyfriend dated. Before me, he was already dating someone else. Truth be told, if I had to be insecure of someone, it would be that girl because she is beautiful, talented, and more famous than IB can ever imagine, and I can state truthfully that I like her–she’s all sorts of wonderful and her friends are equally as sweet too. On the other hand, I’ve already had dealings with crazy exes before with a guy I dated five years ago; the girl had a penchant of sending me scary texts and friendster messages. On the other hand, the guy I dated before my boyfriend had a really nice and beautiful ex that I liked. So if we were to base it on the faulty logic of “history repeating itself” then I guess IB shouldn’t wash her hands clean just yet because she was witnessed to have bashed the girl my boyfriend used to date before me, making fun of the way she dressed (who has a meaner streak? I don’t even make fun of the girls my exes date!) and was quoted stating: “all her clothes are sponsored by Glitterati.” Funny how the world works, really.
- Tricia Gosingtian – Although I for one, know, that she doesn’t want to dragged into this drama but I’m sorry really, I just need to set the record straight. Yes, we are no longer friends as of early this year but it is not because of the Nivea stint as the so-called Dlist blog revealed. Yes, that was where the tension started (though the story is completely inaccurate and not even credible) but that was not the reason at all. Mostly, it was just that we grew apart and things got lost in translation; on my end, I revealed to her something and she didn’t trust me enough on it and I felt that she undervalued our friendship. I don’t know her reasons but I respect her for it, even if I get irritated thinking about it (and yes, that’s an admission). We wrapped up our friendship last December with one last phone conversation that lasted for 5 hours and we’ve never looked back because really, there’s no point in dragging a friendship that wasn’t working. To clear things up: I never actually tagged along to her shoots unless I’m the one being shot or if I’m the one doing the styling–honestly, I’m too lazy. Next, I was merely her acquaintance back when she was just a budding photographer–I became her good friend at the height of her internet career. As for bashing Tricia on my blog during her NYFW controversy, I actually suggest you read (and absorb) my blogpost entitled: Fashion Blogging is Dead–it’s a relatively easy article to digest that was solely made for the purpose of expressing my thoughts on the mishap and how toxic the fashion industry is. Here is an example of a comment where I actually defended her–mostly because I believed that she was treated unfairly by the common public (and because she was my friend and that’s what real, not-make-believe-and-vindictive friends do).
- Kryz Uy – I’ve seen Kryz around since we were in Elementary. She and I used to go to the same school, after all. In all honesty, I don’t know what her family does but it’s kind of not hard to tell that she’s very well-off. As for being jealous of her wealth… well, honestly, we weren’t even close enough for me to know the extent of her wealth to actually be jealous of it. I’ve had richer classmates so I’ve a really plump roster of people to select from–Kryz was far from the list simply because she wasn’t really in my realm of consciousness. What I do know however, is that I’ve always been candid and honest in stating that I found her extremely beautiful and sexy, so calling her cross-eyed is not only erroneous but it has never even once crossed my mind (she’s not even cross-eyed, duh). Granted, we aren’t in the best of terms either right now but that is a private matter (I’ve moved on from) and something only my good friends (and hers, I presume) know of. It doesn’t change the fact however, that I admire and appreciate her beauty and fashion sense (mostly the former). Like I said, I will call an orange an orange–and I will never retract my declaring someone pretty just on the account of us not being on good terms anymore. Next, I have never boasted of giving her tons of jobs, I have recommended her for a few and that is all; she’s famous based on her own merits so why should I even take credit for that? I stated that fact in my blog as I was trying to piece out how we were connected; despite being schoolmates, we’ve never really conversed until college where we stayed in the same dorm facility. We only got to talking when we worked together for So Fab (and this is to point out that I handpicked her because I found her to be pretty and refreshing for the brand, and for no other reason besides that).
- Lissa Kahayon – Apart from being a co-ambassador of Forever 21, I’ve never interacted with her as well. I do not know anything about her High School life and I do not care to know honestly, we don’t even have any common friends. So as far as that goes, my opinion of her right now is based on what I know from the people who used to interact with her–yes, we’re not in good terms as well because of this issue actually, but like I said, we were never really friends to begin with so it’s not a loss.
- Joanna Ladrido – Though we were only close recently, we’ve been friends for 4 years already when she picked me to model for her Glitterati a long time ago (coincidentally how I became Enzo’s friend as well). She was nice and detached, so we were never really able to explore past the superficial part of our friendship (all we talked about was shopping from Gojane.com). I did not know who she was then though, who her family was, but I’ve always been a fan of her Chictopia posts because I’ve always found her to be deep and interesting. In fact, during the issue she had last year with another blogger, my gut-feel made me message her and give her words of motivation. I guess it’s only very timely that we’re closer than ever now because we have the same interests, values, and personality. Next, the jokes about her nose and calling her espasol, aren’t really something I’d make much less say–for one thing, I don’t know what an espasol is and I’ve never really seen her nose up close until now (and I can tell you it’s real, she even offered for me to punch it just to see if it would break like a normal nose). On a serious note, we do know someone who makes fun of her incessantly for being too thin (she was called anorexic), calling her espasol and polvoron, and that her nose is fake. Someone’s bitter mom who has a tendency to meddle with her daughter’s issues, at that.
- Laureen Uy and Camille Co – As I said, I’ve always admired the concept behind Laureen Uy’s blog–but will I wear her outfits? Honestly? No, it’s not my style. But as I’ve always said, there is no such thing as bad or good fashion, there’s just your interpretation. On the other hand, I like Camille Co’s style, in fact, I have her blog on my netvibes actually. Does this mean that I have an opinion about her voice? Not really, we’ve only had a brief conversation for a runway we did last year and I don’t think I actually remember how she sounded like. Besides, my voice is pretty deep so I think it would be utterly hypocritical and juvenile to make fun of someone’s voice. Although Camille and I come from the same school, we’ve never crossed paths and trust me, that is highly possible for a batch composed of 5,000 students. Apart from admiration on the fashion front for these two, that’s about it–I’ve never really established a friendship with either of them before and with their roles and alliances on the current issue, quite frankly, I don’t even think if I’d ever want to interact with them in the future. I’m sure the feeling is mutual.
- Raleene Cabrera – Because it needs to be stated: just because someone is from Cebu, doesn’t mean everyone automatically knows everyone in the city. Cebu is actually a progressive place and I was never really the sociable type. I can’t even remember a few of my batch-mates, how much more people from other schools? Although I’ve seen her once at the Mactan airport (and I remember this vividly), we were never yet introduced and I don’t think I was blogging back then. I just remembered her because she wore this nice pair of clogs that I really, really liked. I don’t even remember how we were introduced only that she was a friend of Kryz’s and her booth at the Blogger’s United event was near ours. I don’t know anything about her apart from the fact that she’s a good singer. I also do not know anything about her political views–I don’t know half of anyone’s political views nor do I care. Because I’m not interested in anyone’s political views, it’s safe to say that I also do not pay attention to anyone else’s eating habits but mine. I admire her for her talent and her style but anything beyond that is none of my concern.
- Danika Rio Navarro – I do not know her, I really don’t. I don’t even follow her on twitter or facebook or whatever social platform. To be fair, I don’t know a lot of bloggers because as I’ve mentioned, I’m so self-absorbed and I do actually do have other priorities. If I can’t even commit to blogging consistently, how much more tune in to other people’s blogs? Next, I would never make fun of the boho style after deeming myself boho sometimes–I actually like boho, thank you very much.
- Lexie Gancayco – Again, I was never really close to Lexie. I only knew of her because of last year’s controversy. Did I tune into the scandal that involved her? Admittedly, yes, I was curious and a friend linked me. I also made an insensitive joke to Crissey about clearing up our facebook chat logs often to avoid being incriminated for anything but other than that, I didn’t really know her save for liking the stuff she sold on her Multiply shop only I never really got around to buying anything as I felt that I wouldn’t fit into any of her items (sorry, ex bitter fat person here). Soon after the supposed scandal, I was in the same shoot as her for Chalk, where I actually didn’t talk to anyone else but Bestie. I was never really the friendly type anyway. When we were asked to stand next to each other, I said the usual “hi” and supplmented it with a “wow, you’re so tall” compliment. I remember this because it’s always the same comment I would make when we’d bump into each other at random times and places. The most recent interaction we had was at this year’s Preview Ball where she told me she appreciated a few of my blog posts. We got into talking about the industry and about having a day job and I knew at that moment that I liked her–she is truly intelligent, and I’m always drawn to people who have a certain depth and maturity.
- Shai Lagarde and Seph Cham – They were once my friends. We had a rift last November and yes, I admittedly said some stuff about them too (and vice versa, really), but we clarified the issue via a phone conversation where we apologized to one another and patched up. Given that I’ve always been the forgiving type, I thought we were okay. Apparently not. Again, I don’t really care much for them. I guess our views are just way too different so I think it’s not really a friendship worth pursuing anymore (and I’m sure they feel the same anyway). I will always stand by, however, the fact that I admire how intelligent and unique their blog is. An orange is an orange, remember?
- Tracy Ayson – Again, another blogger that I do not know personally. She only got into my radar because she was my boyfriend’s friend. I don’t make it a habit to talk about my boyfriends friends in general. Likewise, I am unaware of the fact that she was once an employee of Summit Media–I mean, I actually thought she was younger than I was (and that she was still studying). I only followed her on instagram and twitter because I found her tweets immensely funny and witty, and my boyfriend said she was nice. So honest to God, I have never said anything to anyone about how she looks. I don’t make it a habit to talk about my boyfriend’s friends behind their backs and I most certainly don’t make it a habit to use “with a face like that” as a term. I also do not have an opinion on how she dresses but mostly, I like her outfit posts in instagram. She’s nice and friendly to me in public and that’s that.
- Dani Barretto – I do not know her and I have never interacted with her. Although I work in the entertainment industry, I am showbiz illiterate (I’ve only seen “One More Chance” last month through my yaya and I don’t even get the hype). The first time I was able to recognize her was at the Kardashian event held a few weeks ago. So to be quite blunt, I do not have an opinion of her–how can I formulate an opinion of someone I don’t even know moreover, someone I’ve never been introduced to? I’m too self-centered to actually go out of my way to know who she is or her lineage (no, really, I’m not joking).
- Aisa Ipac – Aisa became my friend during the early days of Blogger’s United and I’ve always told people that I liked her. I’m kind of really easy to decipher: if I don’t like someone, I usually don’t make an effort to recommend them to potential clients looking for bloggers. Once again, I am not counting the things I’ve done for people but I am stating a fact–if I didn’t like Aisa then I wouldn’t so much as bother conversing with her. When I see her out, I would always go out of my way to greet her–something I only do for people I like.
- Gelo Alurcan and Jeroy Balmores – I do not know Gelo, I have never seen his blog before. As for Jeroy, I didn’t know he blogged, I only found out recently that he was a former reader who sent me interview questions 2 years ago. Anyway, I don’t really follow male bloggers because I have no interest in male fashion–it’s not my thing.
- Vern and Verniece Enciso – I actually like Verniece, I think she’s nice, sweet, and extremely pleasant. She makes me feel young all the time too. It’s an added bonus that I find her extremely pretty. When we bump into each other, I appreciate the fact that she’s always the first to greet. On the other hand, Vern is a bit more reserved in public so we don’t get to interact much. As for being extremely jealous of the sisters’ rise to fame–really, IB, please make sure your source is credible (because last I checked, this presuming fat liar is pinning me for things she said). If I wanted to be famous, trust me, I would have just skipped my merry way to some reality TV show audition (and would have made it big there, really, with my propensity to attract controversy you instigated by the way).
- Cheyser Pedregosa – Sorry, I would never call her “mukhang probinsyana” simply because I’m a “probinsyana” from Cebu as well. When I met her in Blogger’s United and didn’t know who she was, I actually stopped her mid-walk to tell her she was cute and that I liked her outfit. In the very same way that I’ve always had an affinity for her style, I recommended her to Multiply. They loved her. The dynamic is as simple as that.
Yes, indeed, to believe the details or not is solely up to you. I don’t have any hearsays from this post because I have all my facts straight. I don’t hide behind anonymity and I don’t state so-called gossips without sources because that’s just really stupid and deceiving. All I can say is: be more discerning. Some things may look like the truth and will parade itself as the truth but be smart.
I am not saying that I am the only victim here. I am also not saying that I am the most morally upright person this side of the planet. The difference between most people and myself, I guess, is that I have the guts to own up to the things I am responsible for and I’m not afraid to call people out on their hypocrisy. So am I Dlist Burnbook? No, unfortunately not. I don’t need to hide behind an anonymous blog to express my dislike towards people. Plus, I’m too self-absorbed and too vain to actually have the time to come up with something that’s juvenile and stupid. Do I have evil thoughts about people in my head? Yes, mostly, but don’t you? It’s quite simple, if you want to know how I feel towards you, ask me and I will answer you bluntly. If you think it’s a waste of time to so much as consider my opinion about you then there you have it, it’s a waste of time for me to also have opinions about other people–I have an 8 to 5 day job, I blog on the side, I go to the gym, I shop, I have a boyfriend, and I have television series to watch. Simply put, I’ve better things to do with my life.
The person behind DList Burnbook is someone who has the motivation to crucify me and to mock me. Clearly, this person has way too much time on their hands too. In the same manner that The Real DList Tumblr goes through wild attempts to tarnish my name and implicate me (so much as to dig up my old blogs), stating fallacious and fictitious accounts about me. The person writing DList Burnbook is clearly the same person writing the Real DList Tumblr. Who is the person behind The Real DList? I spy with my little eye, IB’s sister tweeting the URL on her twitter. Ergo?
Although this makes everything quite irritating, it is also very alarming. It actually makes me fear for my own safety moreover because this person has already assaulted Joanna to the point that she needs a bodyguard to shadow her at all times. If IB was attacked with a glass, why doesn’t she have a bodyguard yet? Why is she always out gallivanting in various “gimikan” places? Well, well, well, indeed.
But I have to fight back and I will fight back. I have to fight back because I am left with no choice. I do not want to stay silent and allow people to step all over me, tarnishing my accomplishments, and attempting to ruin the relationships that I have worked hard for. I will fight for what I believe in and I will fight until the truth comes out.
THE TRUTH ALWAYS PREVAILS. THINGS WILL UNFOLD ITSELF IN DUE TIME. BE PREPARED.
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