Chandelier Earrings: Forever 21 | Bodycon Dress: H&M | Cape: Romwe | Cuff: Ruckus Accessories | Shoulder Bag: Vintage Jean Paul Gaultier | Shoes: So Fab!
Yves Saint Laurent (the founder of my favorite luxury brand ever) once said, “We must never confuse elegance with snobbery.“
People who dress well or are simply enamored and immersed in fashion, are often thought of as classists. I guess there’s just something intimidating about a woman (or a man), who takes pride in the image she (or he) projects. As I’ve mentioned numerous times already, how one presents herself is a direct reflection of the respect she harbors for the people she is about to meet.
Recently, I’ve been told by my best friend that people who don’t know me often surmise that I’m high strung and elitist. “No offense,” she added for measure.
None taken, of course!
To be honest, I’m pretty much used to being thought of as “intimidating” and “scary” (so much so that the insight no longer proves to be unusual). I was, after all, the girl who trotted around her college campus in five-inch heels so I’m not exactly alien to backlash. On hindsight, I think it’s not just because I’m always dressed to the nines; if anything, I think it’s because I don’t socialize too much in public situations too.
I guess I’m just guarded and introverted that way. My personality’s very reserved I guess and I’m just not outwardly nice. I don’t like to establish small chit-chats for formality’s sake, I don’t like pretending to be comfortable around someone I just met (or I don’t like), and I would never want to greet or compliment someone especially if we don’t know each other that well (or don’t have a friendly relationship, for that matter).
That is who I am, that’s howI keep things real, and I’m unapologetic for it.
I’m not ma-”showbiz”, as some people may call it.
So when my good friend’s girlfriend (one of my good friends also) told me that she never would have pegged me to be so “nice” and “down-to-earth” in person, I was beyond touched. She said I had this certain charm that was clearly my own, one that was no-nonsense and was sincere all the same, and that she was honored to be my friend.
It made me smile. I guess I’m not as bad as I thought I was. A little bit aloof maybe, yes, but not horrible. I mean, I’m not nice and I might never be nice in this lifetime, but I don’t choose my friends based on the merits I gain from the relationship. I don’t view people as a commodity and I don’t act upon things for the sole purpose of gaining leverage.
I act according to how I feel and how I want, so as long as I don’t push anyone down intentionally.
If you’re my friend, it’s because I think we connect on a cosmic plane–intellectually, physically, and emotionally. It matters little to me if you’re famous or if you’re well-off; at the end of the day, it’s how we can relate with each other.
In retrospect, I don’t also instigate fights–I don’t like being stressed, and in the rare occasions that I do fight back, it’s only because I’ve been provoked and my friends and the people I care for are being scorned and taken advantage of.
I’m not saying all this for all of you to evoke a higher opinion of me. In fact, by all means, do and think as you must, I’ve long realized that I cannot control people’s thoughts or actions. I’m just saying that if by any chance, you come across me and I don’t look all that welcoming, don’t take any offense–it’s not you, it’s most definitely me.
But rest assured, if you strike a conversation with me, I will always be polite and I will give you the most sincere answers to your questions.
So anyway, this was the outfit that I wore to the matinee showing of the Phantom of the Opera at CCP. I took inspiration from the French Victorian era with the elegant floral print , my chandelier earrings, and the lace details on my architectural shoe–the same time period and location the play (and book, mind you) was set in.
Likewise, you know how in historical films, the men and women would arrive to watch a play in capes and trench coats? I took that into consideration too when I came up with this outfit.
Anyway, here are some more photos:
Wearing Guerlain shade “Habit Rouge 123″