Necklace: Love Diva | Top: Forever 21 | Bracelet: Forever 21 | Clutch: YSL | Skirt: H&M | Heels: Zara
The existence of “It” bloggers are undeniable. In this day and age where the internet is a celebrated form of media (and consequently, blogging: an artform), it is only appropriate for a select few (backed by their blog ranks and their page views) to clamber on top and claim their respective seats.
Each blogger undergoes a different journey from the other, some get to where they are out of sheer dumb luck–making the right connections, emerging at the right time, being helped by the right people, having all the necessary resources–while others arrive out of pure hardwork–calculated positioning, business plans, and relentless promotions.
At the very core of it all, the “hows” don’t really matter, when you’re on top, you are on top, and there’s no changing that fact. But what if that fact starts changing you?
When I was roaming around a bazaar event last year, I overheard an “It” blogger ask a store owner for free items, stating in our native tongue: “Just give me a free piece, I’m a blogger anyway“–as if the word blogger connoted some sort of power. And maybe to a certain extent and in relation to her, it did. Granted, the person was, after all, a legitimate “It” blogger to the core; but before anyone assumes, I do not know her personally and I’ve never had a decent conversation with her so no name-stating please.
My point is simple (and this applies to everyone): When you gain a few certain privileges, you get this sense of entitlement. You will feel like everything is due you, and in effect, the way you look at things, the way you look at people, will change. You will demand more out of life and you will think you are untouchable.
I’ve heard a lot of horror stories (though the validity remains uncertain): “It” bloggers ditching their old High School circles to hang out with the cooler set, “It” bloggers sending out hate mails to other “It” bloggers to turn one against another, “It” bloggers trying to one-up the rest by trying to acquire the other’s endorsement deals, so on and forth.
Initially, the stories amused me–I work in the entertainment industry after all, so I’m practically a self-proclaimed expert in all fields of controversy. I guess I just found it somewhat ironic also, that the blogging industry–with its humble roots and sincere intentions, evolved to mimic something as flashy and as complicated as Show Business.
It only ceased to be funny when it was happening real time to me and the people I care very much for. Quite frankly, I’ve had my fair share of controversies but I’ve always been mum. My readers know me, it’s not in my nature to squeal. However, when it gets to a whole new cosmic plane, when people resort to plain cruelty under the guise of anonymity, the game changes.
Of course, I don’t have plans of throwing a fit just yet. I don’t have plans to reveal anything as well. I still think that the most graceful way to tackle an issue is to turn the other cheek-and I’m definitely not inclined to break my streak because I don’t want to give that horrid person the satisfaction. After all, I am the much better person here (spiritually, emotionally, mentally, monetarily, physically) and I still adhere to my “do by what’s right” principle.
But let’s get one thing straight:
To the one who sent that horrible email, Ms. “It” blogger: you can be an “It” blogger all you want (you matter little to me to even give sound advice), we’re not out there to push you off your throne. By all means, revel in your own delusions of grandeur. You may have everything now–everything that is tantamount to what you think is important, at least, and you are definitely entitled to enjoy the fruits of your labor, but don’t get way above your head. Remember where you come from and remember who you are; don’t you dare think you’re way too high up your pedestal that it gives you the right to be heartless and unabashedly foul. In a matter of years, if you don’t learn to diversify, where will you be? Remember, as Heidi Klum says, “In fashion, one day you’re in, the next day, you’re out.” This industry is fickle and if you don’t play your cards right, there will be nothing left for you and of you.
Choose your battles wisely especially if you don’t know what you’re up against. Remember, only the ignorant are insecure, and only the illiterate resort to below-the-belt remarks.
Karma exists in various forms. Don’t tempt it.
On hindsight, no matter what you do, nothing and no one can ever exist in complete harmony. Who has seen the Dark Knight Rises? A show of hands? I rest my case. Equality, Communism, and World Peace are farcical notions–at the end of it all, people are way too selfish by nature and too greedy that their sole focus is to gain leverage over another, and once they get a hold of that advantage, they are too engrossed to relinquish reigns. It’s human nature.
So it’s quite understandable if some people can’t learn to respect other people (this is why, I reiterate, education is important) –would it kill them to just focus on exacting revenge by building their own success (but there is such a thing called schadenfreude–if you don’t know what it is, google it)? Unless of course, you’re mentally incapacitated to reach a higher level of success. I digress! To read something (intelligent and somewhat) related to this post, please check out Only the Marvelous’ Ten Things to Remember When Your Feelings Have Been Trampled On.
Negative energy be gone! To lighten up the mood, here are a few photos of what I wore today:
Thankfully, the sun was cooperative today. The whole scene was too bright so I had to strain my eyes open. Here’s my attempt to emulate my boyfriend’s gigantic eyes, and I think I did a pretty good job!
A shoot outtake my yaya took!
This is one of my favorite skirts to date. Tulip-cuts are very flattering for me!
Plus the shoes I got 2 weeks before the Zara Sale (and guess what, they were on sale too!) Hope everyone has a happy hump-day!