The Real Score with Excess Baggage

It was at that very moment when the clock’s long and short hands aligned itself in perfect symmetry to welcome the year 2012 that I made a sweeping declaration to devote the upcoming 365 days to my own pursuits and endeavors. 2011 was a year of exploration and experiences, but now that I think I’ve found what I was looking for (ie: myself), I think I’m quite ready to sit back, relax, and do things that I love.

What was it that you told me? Do what you love and do it often? Besides, we only live once, we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves and dwell on the shoulda’, coulda’, woulda’s.

So it’s been 20 days to date and in the said time frame, I’ve managed to:

  1. Blog more frequently (Not exactly twice a week but a little bit more credit here, guys)
  2. Shop less extravagantly (if at all, considering I haven’t gotten anything during the on-going sales)
  3. Talk to my close friends sincerely and truthfully (no holds barred)
  4. Continue to fall in love unapologetically (I love that gorgeous white-gold YSL clutch to death that maybe, I would sell a kidney to acquire one, and yes, I love you as well, maybe a little too much that I’ll most probably sell that white-gold YSL clutch I covet if it were the only way I can have you forever)
  5. Travel like Crazy
By crazy, I mean, crazy with a long, dragged-out A in between. The real deal is: I’ve never traveled like a tourist—emphasis on never, please. Yeah, I’ve traveled a lot prior but 80% of the time, I’ve most likely just spent inside malls or various markets scouring for apparel and the like. For example, I went to Macau last 2011 and stayed cooped up in my hotel room at the Venetian for two whole days. Yes, I didn’t stray past two seasons, in the connecting wing of the Venetian, and no, I’ve never set foot outside the hotel save for that short bus ride to the ferry station. Instead, I blew a wad of cash on Zara, Stradivarius, YSL Lipstick, and you know the drill.

Atrocious, right?

So this year, I’ve decided to visit and re-visit a few places without aiming to go to the malls (but I won’t all-out exclude it from my itinerary)—there’s Palawan for February, Boracay for April, Taipei for mid-May, Singapore for end of May, China on third quarter, and Korea for November.

For my upcoming trips, I’ve made a promise to myself (and the people I’m traveling with) that I would pack light (in addition to wearing zero makeup but that’s another story for some other time). See, I’ve this tendency to over-pack prior to my trips and the thing is, when I’m out of the country, I end up coming with thrice the baggage I initially had. So apart from not over-packing, I’m also trying not to acquire excess baggage—trying being the operative word here.

Excess baggage is a tiny, horrid thing in one’s journey.

It’s an indication of compulsion, impulsiveness, and lack of self-control. Guilty as charged!

It’s not necessarily a bad thing since at times it’s unavoidable (found a cute dress that could double as formal wear for my sister’s wedding at half the original price, so why not?) but unless it’s an offer that’s too good to pass-up, then pass on it.

By now, I’m hoping you’ve caught on to the double-entendre.

Life comes with a lot of excess baggage, some make you who you are today and that’s a good thing but not really good enough for you to hold on to that long, while others aren’t even worth holding on to. To the things that make you stronger, live and let go. To the things that you do not need, just let go.

I’ve held on too long to a lot of things—some of them matter, some of them don’t but in the end, I held on longer than necessary to a few certain things that it was no longer healthy for me. So now, I’ve learned to let go of friendships without trust, friendships built on utility, relationships that were meaningless, ideologies that were self-serving, wants that were completely selfish, fears that were unfounded, and visions that were completely ridiculous.

I call it a subliminal detoxification.

In lieu of all those that I’ve removed, I’ve had: select friendships built on sincerity and utmost respect for one another, valuable relationships teeming with unabridged and unconditional love, ideologies that promote self-betterment, wants that benefit the majority, the courage to try new things and learn from it, and realistic goals that lead to future success (and no, fat six-digit paychecks aren’t really a gauge of happiness and neither is it gauge for self-fulfillment).

So here’s to a good year!

There might be a few bumps down the road but this time, we’re a year wiser.

I think 2012 will be good.

2012 just might be my year.

Leaving for Subic in a bit, hope you’ll have as much fun as I will!

  • http://styleandsoul.blogspot.com/ Melai

    Hi domz! Too blank to say anything really sensible right now but I just like to comment because I really like the way you write and all the things you said here (especially down the last part) are things I keep on nodding to as I read them. I feel you. This entry is honest and really sincere and I’m happy for you, really, for the path and direction you are now on. Like you, these are the things that I wish for in my life. And I hope we both get there. Happy 2012 and I wish you God’s best in everything! :)

    hearts,Melai of Style and Soul

  • http://eggtartbox.wordpress.com/ Krys

    Wow, it sounds like you’ve already gotten so much done in the past twenty days (that’s great!) I’m especially impressed with your upcoming itinerary– so many lovely places that I definitely also want to visit some day. Good luck with not over-packing and not gaining excess baggage; I know that I have the same problem, but it’s gotten a bit easier with more practice. Subliminal detoxification sounds like a great thing to do this year (: Safe travels! xx

  • http://www.plurk.com/autumnsong/invite Daal

    I think 2012 will be good too. :D

  • http://numbertwohere.blogspot.com/ Almira de Villa

    Wow! Naplanomo na 2012 mo! Sigh, can you bring me to your travels pleaseee? Joke, I’m still studying haha. I wanna travel too. And you’re right about the excess baggage in life. Sometimes I hate that I have memories because I can’t easily throw a thing away (be it tangible or not). Hope you meet your goals for 2012! ^^

    Almira :) numbertwohere

  • http://thehungrybrainy.blogspot.com/ Mars Gemilga

    I’m so jealous of all your trips!!! I wish I could travel more, too. I’ve never been out of the country. Oh well, I won’t stop dreaming and believing. And oh, I really love your writing skills. Y U SO BRILLIANT?

  • http://allthejaay.blogspot.com/ Jayrin

    Totally “awwwwed” at this post for some reason. I think it’s because you sound so hopeful which is so inspiring! I kinda feel like 2012 is my year too. <3

  • http://twitter.com/flamingfishy Pauline

    You get to go to so many places this year 8D I hope you enjoy! :)

  • http://twitter.com/karlitapatreng Karla Patricia

    Very nice words, indeed! ”
    valuable relationships teeming with unabridged and unconditional love” :) And, the photo in your BB. *wink wink* Have a great 2012 ahead, ate Domz! Your readers are here to support you. ;)

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Thank you! <3 I already know some of my readers by names! Especially those who comment. ;) Haha, and what photo! :p 

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    I’m looking forward to it!!! So excited! <3 

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Well, there’s nothing to do but hope and act appropriately to achieve the goals we hope for! <3 

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Hi Mars! Thank you! Well, with budget airlines like Cebu Pacific and such, traveling is more accessible to most! 

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Haha, I haven’t outright planned it but I’ve had my trips booked! 

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Let’s toast to that!

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Thank you! Hope everyone does more subliminal detoxification. Out with the bad, in with the good! ;)  

  • http://domzistumbling.tumblr.com/ Dominique Tiu

    Thank you Melai! <3 I love the path I'm on as well and thank you for being a part of it! :)  

  • http://twitter.com/karlitapatreng Karla Patricia

    Awww! I hope I’m one of them! :”D <3